A short but effective alternative to couples counseling
Relationship crisis. Do you have long-lasting conflicts in your relationship? Do you speak badly to each other? Are you not listening to each other? Do you feel misunderstood or are you too often blamed or scolded? Would you like some help?
Solve the crisis in your relationship now and in the future – with an emphasis on your communication and understanding of each other without diving deep into the pitfalls of the past.
Couples counseling with mediation is a great way to take your relationship seriously. With mediated relationship counseling, you focus on what challenges you have right now that you want to resolve. If you focus too much on your background and various personal issues, you can make it difficult to solve the things that need to be solved here and now. The relationship counseling that you meet with me, using a soft version of the mediation technique as a tool, is used by many as a shorter and very result-oriented alternative to traditional couples therapy, where you go deeper into childhood and find the starting point for current problems.
It is not always necessary to take two steps back to take one step forward. If we refer back too much to one of the parties’ backgrounds and origins, it can just as well serve to shift the focus and responsibility for what is happening right now between you. In other words, focusing too much on the past and analyzing it as the cause of the problems can push presence and empathy for each other into the background.
Conflict mediation is a newer and more targeted way to work towards resolving conflict, repetitive conflict patterns, and any behavior that damages your relationship, aldersforskel i parforhold. Mediation sessions are a general strengthening of your presence and empathy, where you become much more aware of both your own and the other person’s feelings and needs, making it much easier to resolve things here and now. If your communication is characterized by discussions, opinions, and having to be right, practicing empathic communication will be a great benefit in itself.
Should you have an individual need for psychological counseling or therapy, this will become apparent to you during the process.
Relationship counseling is for couples who want to become better at understanding and responding to each other in a more empathetic way. Relationship counseling is not only for couples in crisis who may be considering breaking up.
Many men in particular balk at the idea of going to couples counseling, which can take years and doesn’t necessarily yield tangible results very quickly. I’ve had couples where the man said after the first session that they had talked far better in that session than they ever did in 2 and a half years of counseling. He was frustrated by that and relieved by the new way of coming to an understanding that he encountered through mediation.
What he was looking for was an active third person who ensured that the conversation did not go off the rails but remained constructive, ensured greater depth and understanding and, above all, was solution-orientated. He also needed some concrete conflict prevention tools that they could use in everyday life and when things got heated.
Conflict management and mediation, cognitive analysis and mindfulness
In relationship counseling, I offer a four-leaf clover of the best techniques to strengthen your relationship:
In most situations, mediation is the natural and most effective way to move from conflict to greater empathy and understanding.
In addition to the tools of conflict management – which sharpen your communication – I use the cognitive method to gain greater insight into any inappropriate thought patterns that create negative emotions and behavior. The cognitive approach supports you in regulating your thought patterns so that they are more in line with reality and thus create more appropriate emotional reactions and behavior.
Mediation offers couples a structured, neutral environment to address and resolve conflicts. It promotes open communication, mutual understanding, and collaborative problem-solving.
By focusing on finding mutually agreeable solutions, mediation can strengthen relationships, rebuild trust, and foster a healthier, more supportive partnership.
This proactive approach can significantly improve relationship dynamics.
