By Lyban Omar, Implementation Manager – Professional Services, DailyPay
Lyban Omar with his sister, Asha Omar
Lyban Omar with his sister, Asha Omar
Growing up as the eldest of seven siblings in a bustling household, we shared pretty much everything. Personal space and privacy was largely an abstract notion with a constant ebb and flow of bodies and belongings and the younger ones often grouped three to a room. Together, we navigated the chaos of shared living, experiencing the full spectrum of sibling dynamics, from the petty squabbles that inevitably arose, to the deep and enduring bonds that were forged in such close quarters. We were a unit, sticking together through thick and thin, sharing not just physical space, but our aspirations, dreams, and inspiring goals.
My younger sister Asha and I, despite our similar upbringing, had distinct yet equally powerful desires for a future that transcended our present circumstances. She was driven by an insatiable thirst for knowledge and while my own ambitions were less defined, we both yearned for a life filled with purpose and achievement. In the shared intimacy of our crowded bedroom, a pivotal conversation took place where we realized our path to college and a more meaningful life for ourselves and our families would be fraught with challenges – financially, mentally, and physically.
It was in that childhood bedroom we both forged a commitment to enlist in the Army and receive a degree in exchange for years of service. As first-generation Americans, the opportunity to serve our nation held profound significance. We felt a deep sense of gratitude towards the country that had welcomed our family and provided a wealth of possibilities. Enlisting became more than just a means to an education; it was an honor to give back to the nation that had given us so much. The promise we made to support each other’s educational journeys became inextricably linked to our commitment to serve in the armed forces. We envisioned a future where we could not only contribute to our country but also achieve the educational success that our parents had worked so hard to make possible. This dual purpose fueled our dedication as we embarked on our respective military careers.
“If I can survive Fort Leonard Wood, so can you!” she said to me as she has successfully completed Basic and AIT training with honors. Asha was wholly committed to everything she did – stepping forward without pause and making decisions without wavering. Her profound dedication to her service deeply resonated within me, igniting a similar desire to serve and contribute in a meaningful way. Witnessing her dedication and commitment instilled a sense of purpose and encouraged me to pursue a path of leadership and responsibility.
And while Asha’s path ended too soon, the unwavering ambition and determination carried on by my sister’s legacy has continued to inspire me.
My sister’s service wasn’t just her story; it shaped mine. Consequently, I embarked on a journey that culminated in my commissioning as an officer in the United States Army, an achievement directly influenced by her exemplary service and unwavering spirit. Her example became my internal compass, directing me through late night study sessions, early morning ROTC training in the dead of winter and moments of self-doubt. I wouldn’t have been able to graduate college without her inspiration. I wouldn’t have been commissioned as an officer in the Army without her motivation. I simply wouldn’t have been who I am today, without her and her sacrifice. I owe her my life – the least I can do is commemorate her and remember who she was perpetually.
Memorial Day is deeply personal to me. My sister, and others that I served with, serve as constant reminders that freedom’s cost is immense. While enjoying the day off, don’t forget to commemorate those stars that burned bright for our path to freedom. Share their stories at those backyard barbeques and talk about loved ones with family and friends, ensuring their memory lives on. If you don’t have anyone you know who personally made that immense sacrifice, have others share their stories and support them by listening. Volunteer at a veterans’ center or donate to organizations that support veterans and their families.
By engaging in these acts of remembrance, we can ensure that the sacrifices of fallen heroes are not forgotten and that Memorial Day remains a meaningful tribute to their service and bravery. Especially for one beautiful soul that changed my life for the better. I love you, Asha.
